I am just so thankful for so many things that are over the top amazing in my life. However, right now... in our family we are facing something I hoped I never would have to face. I have went back and forth and back and forth if and WHEN would be the time to share. It is something that is heartbreaking and sad and well... it's very personal issue within our family.
However, it's something that I know many of you will understand and may have had to face yourself. Day by day as I blog...I keep feeling I need to share. As I travel I meet so many people that follow my blog and know me and my family. For years, I have shared from the heart about my life. I have talked about the good and bad. Often, I have not been able to talk about certain situations anymore because of "legal issues." Enough said on that one....
This one is different. I am sharing some bad news. It breaks my heart and makes me sad. I know there might be judgment involved. It is hard because it hurts me so much to know that my daughter Taylor will face judgment because of what I am going to share with you. It's a fact...that is what people do. My daughter Taylor who turned 22 years old yesterday is getting a divorce. Yes, the BIG ugly D word. Many of you who follow my blog know that she got married when she was only 19 years old.
This is where it is hard. As her mom and family, we all felt it was not the right decision for her. We expressed our concerns and expressed them the night that Spencer proposed to Taylor. We knew in our heart that it was not right. I felt it so strongly, but I knew that I could not persuade her otherwise. However, you must know it was not because we did not like Spencer or anything like that. I still love Spencer and wish him only the best. Ty and I both knew that she was way too young to get married. We expressed this openly and honestly to both of them.
I have only expressed my love towards Spencer and hope that forever he will know that I am not judging him or Taylor. I know the reasons and I truly feel so much love and compassion in this situation. I have texted and emailed Spencer so that he knows that I would never talk bad or wish anything but the very best for him.
I have known they were having serious problems about six months into the marriage. I think I was really the only person who did know. They have been to marriage counseling, sought counsel with our Church bishop, and of course with each set of parents. I am sad and disappointed. I am being very careful how I word anything. I simply don't feel like it's anyones business as to the reasons why the marriage is ending. I wish it could have been different. I know most will think it was because she was only 19. I have to say... in a way you would be correct. She was way too young (FOR HER) to get married. She has matured a lot in the last three years. However, when it comes down to it, I feel you should really know someone at least a year (OR MORE!) to really see who that person is. You need to see someone at their best, and at their worst, how they handle conflict, disappointment, life, motivation, temptations, and see the REAL person. This goes both ways- I truly in my heart feel it goes both ways for the bride and groom...they each need to know what they are getting into. Spencer needed to know Taylor better and Taylor needed to know Spencer better.
Anyway, since Taylor and Spencer separated they have been working hard on being friends. I am so thankful that they have chosen to be friends. They still love each other, but they know and accept that this is for the best.
I want you to know that Taylor and Spencer both knew I was posting today about this. Taylor often travels with me and many of you know her too. In fact, she will be at IU with me.
Today we also did the sneak peek for day 4 for Inspiration Unlimited-
we have a new sneak today!!!! woo hoo! Today's sneak features your Saturday class with Vicki Boutin! Woo hoo!
This workshop is a layout class like no other! We are talking stamping, foiling, a little of this, and some of that....
Be sure to check out our blog, as well as Vicki Boutin 's blog today for more details!
www.vickiboutin.typepad.com
This workshop is a layout class like no other! We are talking stamping, foiling, a little of this, and some of that....
Be sure to check out our blog, as well as Vicki Boutin 's blog today for more details!
www.vickiboutin.typepad.com
We are having a little family birthday party after Church for Taylor. I am thankful....
